As amazing as it is to have pages and pages of sex toy options, it can be overwhelming when you’re just trying to find the best dildo for your body and your needs. While a lot of people start with a vibrator, dildos can also be amazing starter toys or partner toys that can hook into strap-on harnesses, and can even train your vaginal canal to gradually accept bigger and bigger girths. Dildos come in many different shapes, sizes, and materials. They can look like a real penis, be elegant, sleek, joyfully colorful, or even made in fantastical shapes like tentacles or dragon heads.
There are also dildos for different purposes—some that suction onto a shower wall, some that are made to be part of a strap-on, some that have dual ends, and some that have two dildos in one for double penetration. Before your first time, let’s break down what you should look for when buying a dildo.
What should you look for when buying a dildo?
“When buying a sex toy, remember that everyone is different and everyone enjoys different things,” Byrony Cole, Lovehoney’s sex tech expert, tells SELF. “You are unique in your choice so go your own way and remember there is no ‘normal!’”
When choosing a dildo, there are several questions you want to ask yourself. “Have a size range in mind,” Ashley Cobb, Lovehoney sex toy educator, tells SELF. “Do you want a dildo that is 10 inches or five? Are you a fan of girthy or narrow? What type of dildo are you looking for? Dildos can vibrate, be realistic, fleshlike, or both. And lastly, know the purpose. Will this dildo be used with a strap or only during solo play? Knowing the answers to these questions beforehand can save a lot of time when shopping.”
Cole also recommends knowing the answers to these three questions: “Have you used a toy before? Are you going to be using it by yourself or with a partner? Do you want a toy that is internal, external, or both?”
If it’s your first toy, Cole suggests starting small and simple. For partnered play, she likes Njoy’s P-spot and G-spot toys. And if you want something purely external, she recommends something smooth and sleek made from a material that can be heated or cooled for sensation play. The gist is that somewhere out there is the best dildo for you, but there’s no one-size-fits-all.
Ahead, we found 41 of the best dildos with a little (okay, a lot) of help from sex experts. You’ll find phallic dildos, novelties, rechargeable vibrating dildos, and more. Don’t forget to keep an open mind!