If you’re shopping for anal sex toys, a butt plug or dildo might be the first thing that comes to mind, but prostate massagers can offer another facet of sexual pleasure on your journey into anal penetration and play. These popular sex toys are shaped and contoured to specifically target the prostate gland, which is a walnut-sized gland inside the pelvis behind the penis and between the bladder and the rectum. Featuring a bundle of sensitive nerve endings, this erogenous zone is often referred to as the P-spot, and stimulating it can feel deeply satisfying and lead to orgasm for some people, much like G-spot stimulation.
For all your anal sex questions, we spoke with experts on buying your first prostate massager. The first prostate massager you buy should be easy to clean, tapered, and on the slimmer side, Carol Queen, Ph.D., staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, tells SELF. And, she’s quick to add, “they must have a base so they don’t slip inside, so no getting frisky with mini vibes or that sort of thing.” As is the case with the best butt plugs, starting small and taking things slowly is the way to go if you’re trying a prostate massager for the first time, and, luckily, there are plenty of beginner-friendly options on the market right now. That said, if you’re not new to prostate play and simply want a new and exciting sex toy to test out, you’ve come to the right place too. With toys featuring rumbly vibrations, multiple motors, widely variable speeds, and even radiating heat settings, you’re sure to find something that lights your fire.
Here, we’ve highlighted some of the very best prostate massagers available now, according to sex experts. Read on to find the right one for you, and whatever toy you ultimately choose, remember these words of advice from Dr. Queen: “No anal without lube!” And it just so happens we also have a handy-dandy guide to top-rated lube brands, ready for your perusal.
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